Islamic Couple?

Bismillaahirrahmaanirraheem…

Assalamualaikum Wr. Wb., my dear brothers and sisters of Islam. 🙂

I wanted to title this post “A Pious Boyfriend?”, but after much contemplation I’ve decided to change it to “Islamic Couple?” because at times it’s not only the guy’s fault, but also can be the girl’s fault. After all, it takes two hands to clap right? Anyway, this post is not only for those “Islamic Couple” but also who’re engaged. Before I start, I’ll try my best not to be insensitive towards anyone’s feeling, but I just hope that we all could learn from each other’s pasts. InsyaAllah.

It’s just normal isn’t it to love and be loved. To feel accepted by the opposite gender just so you know that you’re attractive like that. Haha. On a serious note, it’s because ladies who have met guys that were equivalent to jerks who just don’t know how to treat a lady right, they’ll start to be more wary with whomever that approaches them. They’ll make sure that the guy prays consistently, fasts regularly, treats everyone nicely, … you got it. They’ll ensure that their next boyfriend(s) is a pious man.

Being “pious” unmarried couples are not that easy. They need to stop going out together without a third person, need to stop joking around excessively, need to start keeping a halal distance, etc. Of cz it’s gonna be hard abiding those rules just so they could be seen as an “Islamic couple” in Allah’s eyes before they could finally be halal certified. Don’t you think they’re doing a great job? Nope, not at all.

“So what if my boyfriend has the intention to marry me but only that he’s not financially prepared?”

Honestly, I think that’s what every guy will say to his girlfriend and living in this increasingly expensive world, that’s what they will continue to say – “I wanna marry you but I’m not financially stable yet”. Harsh reality isn’t it?

“My boyfriend/girlfriend makes me closer to Allah SWT.”

Those who are guilty, put your hands up. There’s actually something very ironic about the phrase above. ‘Boyfriend/girlfriend’ is actually the last thing that makes you closer to Allah SWT. Yes, your bf/gf can encourage you to go to the mosque, to read more Islamic books, to be a better Muslim/Muslimah but actually, you’re not doing it for Allah SWT. You’re doing it for that person!

In the past, I was always depending on someone to guide me to be a better Muslimah. I needed someone to tell me what’s right and wrong. Then I realised, the keywords are “I needed someone”, hence Allah SWT brought someone to me. It may seem like a blessing at first, but actually Allah SWT allowed syaitan to blind my hearts.

A few weeks ago, I’ve got the chance to meet this wonderful lady whom has never been into a relationship nor has she gone for dates before. She’s EVERGREEN but I’d like to call her a RARE GEM instead. There are of cz guys who asked her out but she simply said no. Of cz it’s not that simple to say no, but she knows every reason to why going out with a guy is wrong. She’s saving her chastity and her heart only for the rightful one. She believes that if you want to get closer to Allah SWT, you don’t need anyone to be a reason to do so cz it just shows how insincere you are to seek Him.

I can never agree more. All these while my heart, eyes and mind were blinded by syaitan. I allowed syaitan to take control of me. I was cheated by my own desires. I thought my love for Allah SWT was real, but it was nothing but a mere trap from my own foolishness.

These are the reasons why you should not be in any before marriage relationship:

-A pious person will never get into a haram relationship cz you know Allah forbids us from going even near to fornication (zina).

Allah says:

“Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil opening the road (to other evils).” (Al-Israa:32)

Even our Beloved Prophet Muhammad says:

“I have not left behind me any fitnah more harmful to men than women.” [Sahih Bukhari]

If we can understand these two powerful Divine statements, then we will not even think of committing into a haram relationship. Humans are humans, we tend to fall into syaitan’s trap and it’s inevitable to not slip along the way even how clean we try to make this concept of “Islamic relationship” be.

Even with this kind of joke, it can jelly your Imaan.

-You’ll never know if he/she is the person that you gonna be married to.

Increasingly I’ve seen couples taking a picture together with captions like “May Allah bless our relationship” or “May we last till Jannah” on social media. Allah will never bless haram relationship and haram relationship will only land you in Jahannam (Hellfire) instead. You can try all ways to keep your relationship stable, but if Allah says that person is not the one for you, he/she will not be the one. Yeap, you can be with your bf/gf for 8 years or a few months, but if Allah says you’re not for him/her, you’ll never be for him/her. Of cz this happens to me and I would want to say “I’ve got no regrets”, but I realised regretting is one of the conditions to taubah (repentance). I regret my actions because my husband is the one who has to bear all the jealousy.

-Your future spouse is the victim of your own foolishness.

Even how much your spouse says “it’s okay” to your past, he/she is actually not that okay. Knowing that your heart was once captured by other person before him/her, knowing that you once loved someone before him/her, really, nothing can be more hurtful than that. I know of a couple who’s married for 10 years, but the wife still gets jealous when her husband’s ex gf name’s being mentioned. It’s not about trust issue, but when it’s about the matter of the heart, it can remain forever.

Allah SWT has set guidelines on how we should communicate and interact with the opposite gender. He knows of the detrimental effects of the things that He has made forbidden. Doing whatever that’s against His commandments just show how much we don’t believe in His wisdom. We can live in denial by saying “I believe 100% in Allah’s wisdom”, but really, your actions say it all.

-Love your future spouse so much. So much so you won’t allow anyone to take his/her place till the akad nikah is finally over.

It’s very important to guard your heart. Like I’ve mentioned, you never know whether your current bf/gf is the person you’re gonna get married to. Even when you’re at the stage of engagement, GUARD.YOUR.HEART. How many times have we heard of people who are engaged but end up marrying a different person? I do not advocate “engagement” because in Islam, there’s no such thing. Nowadays people treat engagement as a green light to do anything with their future spouse. Errr… I think I’ll need to write up one whole post on engagement itself.  Huhu. Anyway, you don’t know who’s your future spouse gonna be cz that’s Allah SWT’s secret, but love him/her so much so that only the deserving one can claim your heart the right way.

So here what you can do!

-It’s not too late to bid goodbye to your pious bf/gf. Cz if he/she is pious, he/she will never ask you to be in a relationship with him/her. Break up because of Allah SWT cz I can guarantee you, that’s when you’ll finally realise that you’re getting closer to Him.

-It’s okay to cry buckets. It’s really okay. If it’s tears of heartbreak and repentance, insyaAllah with the constant remembrance of Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW, your heart will heal in no time.

-Wake up for tahajjud prayers. Really, nothing is more healing than waking up at 3 in the morning, praying and crying and asking Allah SWT for forgiveness and a strong heart. It’s guaranteed to work.

-Fill your heart with Allah SWT’s and Rasulullah SAW’s love first! I remembered making this doa:

“Oh Allah, fill my heart with Yours and Rasulullah SAW’s love before You fill my heart with human’s love.”

So how can you fill your heart with Allah SWT’s love? By reciting the Qur’an, do lots of zikir and read the tafsir (translation & interpretation) of the Qur’an. How bout Rasulullah’s love? By learning & emulating his Sunnah and do lots of selawat. When I say zikir and selawat, I mean cleaning up your music playlist and replace it with Qur’an recitation, zikir and selawat. Make sure the zikir and selawat you’re listening to are what Rasulullah has taught us. There are abundance of it,you don’t have to find alternatives.

Download pdf for supplication of Prophet Muhammad SAW: Fortress of a Muslim by Hisnul Muslim

I know it’s difficult to take that leap of faith. However, if you want a marriage that lasts till Jannah, you should start it right! How can you ask Allah SWT for a blessed marriage if you start your relationship the haram way?

“Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.” [An-Nisaa:26]

If your future spouse is Allah’s secret, death is Allah’s secret too. You’ll never know if death gonna come to you sooner than marriage.

WallahuAlam.

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Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage + Quick Fix!

Bismillaahirrahmaanirraheem…

Assalamualaikum Wr. Wb.

Being a newly wed, I was so afraid of my marriage being ruined due to some actions done by either my spouse or myself. Before I even got married, I’ve got some ladies who came to me sharing their problems with hope that I could give them the best advise or just a listening ear. No doubt, some I thought was just nitty gritty stuff which shouldn’t even be a problem but now that I’m married myself, I can somehow understand how these ladies are feeling. Alhamdulillah I’ve got such a loving, understanding and responsible husband, who knows how to handle a marriage well.

I thought of writing “Ways To Make Your Spouse Happy”, but I guess I’ll put that aside for later. Furthermore, there are a lot of posts on that topic that can be found everywhere on the net. So yeah! Please be conscious of how you treat your spouse because even a small but continuous act of mistreating your spouse can lead to as extreme as a divorce. And InsyaAllah I’ll tag a quick fix on these possible challenges.

1. Holding back secrets from your spouse.

I don’t get how people can keep secrets from their spouses without feeling any guilt. I’ve seen a husband deleting and blocking his wife from FB and Instagram just so he could add hot chicks on FB/Instagram without getting caught. He get caught in the end by his wife and he said “they are just my friends”. Another instance would be, you contacting your ex or the person you used to date without the knowledge of your spouse. Anything, any form of hiding information from your spouse, you are keeping secrets.

Fix it! Why would you need to be in contact with your past unnecessarily? Isn’t your present and future more worthy of your time and attention? And why would you want to go after someone who’s not within your reach? The person who you chose to get married to is already there, right in front of you, hungry for your love and attention. Go to that person! Control your nafs (inner desire) and control your gaze. Your spouse is there as your diary cz he/she is your closest companion. Trust me, if you’re not having a good night sleep, most prolly you’re keeping secrets from the person who’s sleeping right beside you.

2. Fail to balance work/friends/mum with your spouse.

In Islam, when the lady got married to the guy, her husband is responsible over her… at the same time being responsible over his mum too. However, there are instances whereby the guy just doesn’t know how to balance the two! It’s either more attention for his mum, or his spouse. Okay, but now I’m talking about the guy giving more attention to his mum because he believes “heaven lies underneath mum’s feet”. That’s a fabricated hadith btw, but there’s a similar hadith to that except that it’s within a context. And bcz the guy holds on firmly to that belief, he began to be one sided and treat his wife less. Same goes to a wife who dedicates too much time with work and friends till she forgot that she has a husband at home.

Fix it! I know it’s hard BUT LEARN TO BALANCE. This requires conscious effort from both parties. Guys, remember. When a lady gets married to you, she literally leaves everything behind for you. She may still have her parents to talk to, but after marriage, she wants to talk/rant to you!

“Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well.” [Al-Tirmidhi]

 

3. Ranting personal problems on social media or to mum.

I’ve seen this like a looooot of timeeesss… Ladies especially. I don’t know what satisfaction one can receive from saying bad things about your spouse on social media. You want your friends and the whole world to know what kind of an idiot you’re married to? And for guys, as mentioned on the point above, when they tend to give more attention to their mum, they tend to expose their marriage problems to her. What’s the consequences of that? Your wife will be looked upon as someone who is incompetent of taking care of her son and your wife will be the source of hatred in the new family she just entered.

Fix it! Social media is not and should never be the place for you to expose your personal problems. And never never never expose your marriage problems to your mum (that may cause hatred). COMMUNICATE! A big word with huge meaning that can save your marriage from any danger. You may not be the communicating type of person, but I’m sorry buddy. Once you stepped into marriage, YOU HAVE TO. You’re married to another human, not to yourself.

4. Calling your spouse names or make your spouse feels unworthy.

Oh my. Please. I heard of wives being called disobedient just because she tried to air her disagreement over certain matters. And again on social media I’ve seen wives calling her husband by inappropriate names just because he acts like one(LOL).

Fix it! I know women tend to nag when they wanna air their disagreement, but ladies, let’s do it in a manner that it’s straightforward and not hurtful. Guys, know that there won’t be any noise coming from us women if everything is going all well. Again, COMMUNICATE! Of cz, in a gracious manner and please, come to a conclusion. Some people may conclude by saying the other party is wrong, but it’s best if you could give a conclusion whereby it is for the betterment for the marriage. Give and take.

5. Throwing tantrum over small matters.

Oh my… Someone gonna get real hurt – emotionally or/and physically. Especially those who are hot headed and always feel he/she is right. For example just because you misplaced something, you blamed it on your spouse and when your spouse didn’t admit (cz it’s not his/her fault), you began to throw tantrum. And just because your spouse said something that you might not agree with, you began to shout at his/her face.

Fix it!  Changing your habit is not easy and will never be easy. It’s a huge challenge for yourself. Take huge breathes, slowly inhaling and exhaling. Do not speak a word. Think of the consequences before acting. Think again if your actions gonna hurt anyone. Then act. Remember that words you say, you can never take it back. It’s easy to forgive, but it’s not easy to forget.

“A man said to the Prophet, ‘Give me advice.’ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, ‘Do not get angry.’ The man asked repeatedly and the Prophet answered each time, ‘Do not get angry.’” [Sahih Bukhari & Muslim]

6. Sleep with your electronic device, wake up with your electronic device.

I would want to give a big sigh on this. To those who are guilty, please marry your electronic devices instead. I’ve got ladies complaining to me that their husbands will be on their phones/PC and will ask them to sleep first. I just don’t get it how people have the heart to that to their spouses. For me, I really value that few minutes with my husband before sleep. We will just talk about each other’s day and really, I can’t imagine not receiving a goodnight kiss from my husband! It’s a small gesture but with big impact that can go a looooooong way. Oh yeah, and this. When waking up, the first thing you see is… (no prize for guessing it right) YEAP! Your phone. Whatever happened to saying “Good morning, dear” and a peck on your spouse’s forehead? Is your electronic device more worthy of your attention than your spouse?

Fix it! I know. I know. It’s hard to control that bad habit. But why do we allow electronic devices to take control of our lives? FYI, just in care if you’ve forgotten, those electronic devices are non-living things. You control them. Look at your wife’s face instead of some girls’ face on instagram. Touch and caress your wife instead of that mouse and keyboard. Control. Control. Control.

7. Talking bout other guys/ladies.

“David Beckham!” “Megan Fox!” “Brad Pitt!” “Katy Perry!” Ahhh… I don’t know any latest Hollywood stars. I can only afford to name all those. Lol. So yeah, you get my point. I’ve also seen ladies putting their phone’s lock screen of their favourite guy artist. Seriously? You’ve committed two grave mistakes here. One, you’ve certainly not lowered your gaze. Two, don’t forget there’s a real person beside you who’s feeling hurtful with what you did.

Fix it! What happiness can you get from idolizing these people? Superficial happiness that is. The only thing you’ll get from idolizing them is anger from Allah SWT, disappointment from your spouse, and a very unhappy marriage life. The only person you need to impress is the person who’s sleeping beside you. Touch him/her, yeap, he/she is real. Go on… Touch the person you idolize on your phone, now press your lock button, THE PERSON IS GONE. Welcome to reality.

8. Comparing your spouse with someone else’s spouse.

Another huge sigh. I do not have to explain on this, it’s self-explanatory.

Fix it! It might seem inevitable not to compare what your spouse has done for you with what other people did for their spouse. Fact is, every marriage is different and has their own challenges and this is yours. Instead of comparing your spouse with other people, why not give him/her good advice and feedback so that he/she can improve in the marriage? Trust me, the more you compare, the more worse your spouse will be. Your spouse is one of a kind, accept his/her strengths and also weaknesses; accept each other’s differences.

“A believer must not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another.” (Sahih Muslim)

There are many other factors that can ruin a marriage. I can only think of these for now. Do comment if you have any inputs!

Remember, the man should take charge in the family. He directs the way. A woman can do 101 things for the marriage, but in the end it’s the man who should take lead. Cz if you’re not reacting to what your wife has done for you, then really, it’s such a pity. Woman on the other hand, should be understanding and not be too emotional when your husband acknowledge the wrong you’re doing. Never bad mouth your husband to anyone.

All in all, your spouse is a reflection of you. I always believe that if he/she is doing great in the marriage, it’s bcz his/her spouse is doing great too for the marriage and vice versa.

Fiqh of Love

Finally, before I end, this is just snippets of the last sermon of our Beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW:

 “O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regards to your women,but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.”

WallahuAlam. 🙂

 

 

To Those Who Want To Wear The Niqab – Please Don’t.

Bismillahirrahmaanirraheem…

Assalamualaikum Wr. Wb.

It’s been a week plus since I last blogged. I was working on a post titled “A Pious Boyfriend?” for a few weeks now and I realised the last time I edited it, it didn’t automatically save and IT’S GONE WITH THE WINDDD. So I gave up on it. Haiz. Maybe if I’m feeling hard working, then I’ll continue. As for now, let me address those ladies who intend to don the niqab… or are already donning it.

So, to those who want to wear the niqab – PLEASE DON’T.

Why do I say don’t? Have I regretted my decision in donning the niqab? Obviously NOT. I love the niqab and insyaAllah I will never leave this piece of cloth across my face that has changed my life 360 degree. So why do I discourage people from wearing it but I myself will never leave it? Hypocrite? Definitely NOT.

There has been a sudden influx of ladies wearing niqab globally and  no doubt, it’s amazing to see ladies becoming more wary of their aurah (cz those who wear niqab will automatically wear loose clothing). I’ll smile behind my niqab when I walk passed another fellow niqabi. It really is a wonderful feeling knowing that there’s another person who wants to emulate the wives of our Beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW.

However, when I go online, I began to worry.

“Is the niqab going to be another fashion trend?”

SubhanAllah. I’m not judging anyone and I will not judge anyone because I myself not perfect. I’m just sad cz I see lots and lots of niqabi taking selfie, type some Islamic caption and expect people to …? Some even draw thick, bold and sexy cat-eye/winged eyeliner and wear coloured contact lenses. I’m not questioning their intentions cz most of the time our intentions are pure but our actions absolutely do not portray that pure intention.

One of my friends even told me she saw a niqabi taking pictures with guys. WallahuAlam.

I’m not saying I’m a perfect example of a niqabi, but we must know our limits. Just like the Hijab, we should know the wisdom behind the niqab. I’m also not saying a niqabi is more pious than a hijabi but we must make sure that whatever we are donning either the niqab or just hijab alone, is serving it’s purpose.

I wear the niqab cz the hijab I was wearing was not serving it’s purpose. I wear the niqab because I still act like a total retard when I was a hijabi. I wear the niqab because I still had lots of guy friends when I was a hijabi. I wear the niqab because I still portray myself like a non-hijabi when I was a hijabi (WHUUTTT?).

The wisdom behind donning a niqab and hijab is simple – to prevent yourself from drawing the attention of men.

So simple to digest but not simple to carry out. I know I know. Been there, done that. Honestly, if I could stop drawing the attention of men (cz I could start a conversation with men easily), I will just stop at being a hijabi. However, I couldn’t.

Being a newbie niqabi wasn’t an easy task. I’ve to delete my previous instagram, I’ve to privatise all my fb photos and I’ve to stop saying things that aren’t really important. Basically, being a niqabi is not only offline, but also online!

There was once, I put up a picture of me wearing half face niqab for the first time on fb and guess what? I’ve received more likes than ever before! I choose not to think that I look more beautiful with my face covered (LOL), but I realised that niqabis are very rare and people have the impression that niqabis are more pious than hijabis. And so, the so called pious guys will start to pursue for you cz he feels that you’re his ideal pious wife.

Please. Please don’t be fooled by guys who termed them as “akhi” and you as “ukhti”. It won’t Islamize your idle conversations.

A pious woman is she who guards here eyes and doesn’t want to be seen.  

Renew our intentions. If we wear the niqab cz we want to follow the wives of the Prophet PBUH aka the Mothers of Believers, then let’s listen to Allah’s commands:

“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.” (Al-Ahzaab:32)

This dunya is only a testing ground. If we can’t fight this desire, are we even worthy of calling ourselves servants of Allah? It’s not only by picture captions or fb status that will judge our worthiness in Allah’s eyes, it’s our actions as a whole. If you want to pursue for fb or instagram likes, then hundreds, thousands of likes that you will get. If you truly and sincerely want to pursue for Allah’s redha and blessings, then you’ll get His redha and countless blessings. Try not to do your do’a on FB, cz it just shows that you want humans to answer your prayers. Keep your conversations with Allah private for He’s the One that will answer all your prayers.

Struggle in the path of Allah cz He has promised:

“And whosoever of you is obedient to Allaah and His Messenger and does righteous good deeds, We shall give her, her reward twice over, and We have prepared for her a noble provision Paradise.” (Al-Ahzaab:31)

Remember, when we’re happily flaunting our niqabs online, there are people out there who are trying their best and even go to the extend of risking their lives just to wear one in the name of Islam. Let’s not destroy the pure image of Islam any more, it’s already being destroyed enough.

Again, I’m not trying to discourage anyone from donning the niqab. In fact, I highly encourage anyone who wants to wear it but we must remember, that piece of cloth across your face is not just a cloth. It comes with a set of rules and responsibilities that we need to abide to.

This post is not only for a specific group of ladies, it’s also for hijabis, current niqabis and myself. Let’s constantly remind one another that hijab and niqab are ‘ibadah, and Allah’s command should not be compromised by any desires but if all else fails, let’s remind ourselves of the wisdom behind hijab and niqab. May Allah SWT make us stronger so that we could fight in His path and may He be pleased with us Muslimah, InsyaAllah. 🙂

I’m truly sorry if I offended anyone. I love my Sisters for the sake of Allah and I hope we can do everything for the sake of Him only.

WallahuAllam.

What Did You Do With Your Youth?

Bismillahirrahmaanirraheem…

I was looking through my past posts on FB and found this post on 7th September 2013. Keep in mind that I’ve not yet met my husband then. So yeah… Heheh. Just a copy paste (plus a bitt of pictures). ^^

Last night I was browsing through all my tagged photos while waiting for the school’s system to work (which it didn’t in the end). Photos from 2008 till this year. Thousands over photos and no doubt I missed all those moments, and deep in my heart I wanted it to happen again. That’s when life was carefree. I had the life that I’ve always wanted.

Today, while listening to a talk by Abdurrahman Green on TV9, it struck me real hard.

He mentioned, Allah SWT will ask in Judgment Day, “What did you do with your youth???”.

I was dumbfounded.

What have I done with my youth?

Enjoy your youth but don’t waste it.

I didn’t really have lots of major sins to start with (I hope). Yet all along I thought I knew what was right, and what was wrong… But I realised I was totally wrong.

What did I do for Allah SWT back then? Hmm… Just praying…on and off. Wore the headscarf…whenever I feel like it. Actually, praying and wearing the headscarf are already mandatory in Islam and should not even have any questions put to it!

So what did I do extra for Allah SWT? Hmm… That’s a tough question. I did almost nothing for Him.

Ever since I was young, I thought my life was a miracle. I told many people that my life was a miracle. It was a hard life but there’s always ease. Alhamdulillah.

Then came a point when Allah SWT really put me into a real test. I was crying every night. I was pleading to Him to stop everything that was happening. But now I realised, Allah SWT put me through all those tests cz He loves me.

Through tests, we’ll improve and hence become a better person. Yet we still have a choice and make the decision.

There was another time, Allah SWT put me to a test, but I just drowned deeper. I made a wrong decision cz my heart was as hard as a bullet proof shield. Then He tested me further. Alhamdulillah I was given the chance to taubat. May Allah SWT accept my taubat.

Those who were wondering why I was always changing, truth is, I was searching for the real purpose of life. It’s through trial and error that Allah SWT will eventually put you somewhere you really deserve.

Who says I don’t miss listening to music? I do miss the frequent karaoke sessions I used to have.

Who says I don’t miss going out with my friends? I do miss having lots of laughter and crap talk at some coffee shops.

Who says I don’t miss being a camp instructor? I do freaking miss being a crazy instructor. I had that dream of being a camp instructor when I was in primary school!

Who says I don’t miss being loved? I do miss so badly having a boyfriend to share my life with. (I’M MARRIED NOW! YAY ALHAMDULILLAH! xD)

But I know… I had to let all of that go in order to fill my heart with the One. I made so much mistakes in my life. And I will never escape from doing mistakes. I know I have to prevent it before it happens.

We’re always waiting to be tested THEN we’ll improve. But like what Abdurrahman Green says, we’ve to put into our mentality to keep improving! So when tests come, we’ll embrace it and improve further.

We’re here in this dunia with the sole purpose of worshipping Allah SWT. He’s the One who created life and death. He puts us into this dunia to make known which of us is the best. Whose action has ihsan/ excellence/ goodness/ correctness.

There are three ingredients in our actions in order to be accepted:

1. Iman – Goodness without Iman is useless in the day of judgment.

2. Ikhlas – Actions must be for the sake of Allah SWT.

3. Has to be correct – It must be according to Syariah.

Nowadays many have Iman and Ikhlas but they don’t follow the Syariah. When this happens, it’s a new innovation! And when these new innovations in ‘ibadah happened, we’re abandoning Sunnah. Na’uzubillah.

I can pass on knowledge everyday on my FB. Many say it serves as reminders to them. However the main question is, how did you act on the knowledge? And in Judgment Day, we’ll be asked that question.

Whenever you received a knowledge, doesn’t matter through FB or talks or anywhere, ask yourself: How am I gonna translate this knowledge into action?

This world is just a perfect testing ground. It’s not permanent. But bear in mind, whatever actions we’re doing in this world, gonna be permanent in the Hereafter.

Regretting whilst you’re in your grave is too late. Regret now and repent, it’s not too late yet.

Those who want to change but need that extra push, you can approach me. I’ll be more than willing to help and encourage you. InsyaAllah we’ll change together in the path of Allah SWT.

May Allah SWT see our struggle. Jannah is only for those courageous ones.

Wallahualam.