Assalamualaikum Wr. Wb.
Dear My Muslim LGBTQ Brothers and Sisters…
There’s something we need to confess to you. We, straight Muslims, do not hate you. In fact, we have never hated you. True, we may seem aggressive with our acts of eradicating LGBTQ from the society but it’s not because we hate you. You are our brothers and sisters and we love you for the sake of Allah SWT. We love you and we don’t want you to get punished for your act. We know we are no one to say that you’re going to Hellfire, but it’s already clear in the Qur’an when Allah SWT says:
“Know they not that for those who oppose Allah and His apostle is the fire of Hell? Wherein they shall dwell. That is the supreme disgrace.” (al-Qur’an 9:63)
We love you so much, my dear brothers and sisters. Hell is not the place that you wanna be. It’s that last place that you wanna be. We give you reminders because we understand how much pain one will have to suffer in Hellfire. Again Allah SWT says in the Qur’an:
“… fear the Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, prepared for the disbelievers.” (al-Qur’an 2:24)
We know you feel the guilt. Keep feeling guilty, my brothers and sisters. Keep telling yourself that Allah SWT hates your action, cz you yourself know that it’s a sin. Don’t let anyone tell you that LGBTQ is acceptable in Islam. Know that you are better than those people who seem pious. Those “pious” people who are trying to re-interpret the Qur’an by saying that LGBTQ is acceptable in Islam, remember that it is just a deception of the devil. Know that these people can go up to kafir.
There’s a huge difference between a person who’s involved in LGBTQ but knows that it’s haram and a person who’s involved in LGBTQ but says it’s okay in Islam. The former, insyaAllah may Allah grant him Hidayah, but for the latter, it’s already clear in the Qur’an that whomever disregards any part of Allah’s commandments, he is a disbeliever.
“… And whoever does not judge by what Allah has revealed – then it is those who are the disbelievers.” (al-Qur’an 5:44)
Interpretation by Ibn Abbas, recorded in Tafsir At-tabari: Whomever does not judge by the commands of Allah and he is against it, then he is a disbeliever. However, if he does not judge by the commands of Allah, yet acknowledges it, then he is a zalim fasik.
However my dear brothers and sisters, you still need to keep improving yourself. You need to keep seeking the truth. Don’t stop putting in effort to search for Allah SWT’s pleasure.
Haven’t you heard of Prophet Lut’s (peace be upon him) community? His community was involved in homosexual acts. Wild sex was widespread. They didn’t want to listen to Prophet Lut’s (peace be upon him) warnings and reminders. The situation was so bad, he prayed to Allah SWT to destroy his community. What happened to them after that? Allah SWT answered Prophet Lut’s (peace be upon him) prayers by commanding an angel to “scoop” the land they’re staying high up in the air and turn the land upside down, and within seconds the whole community was destroyed.
Haven’t you heard about the People of Pompeii? The community was similar to that of Prophet Lut’s (peace be upon him). They make a living from prostitution. Homosexuality was also widespread. It’s a city of sex. What happened to the community then? A nearby volcano erupted so violently, its lava destroyed the whole community yet Allah SWT preserved their body so perfectly so that we could learn from their mistakes. These are signs of Allah SWT’s anger.
So my dear brothers and sisters, how can homosexuality ever be acceptable in Islam?
Allah’s wisdom is so great that nothing can surpass it. We’re always talking about hijab. That’s why we even need to hijab when we’re in the same room with the same gender. Both men’s and women’s aurah when in front of the same gender are from the navel to the knees (knees included). We cannot be naked in front of anyone, except for your halal wife/husband. That’s the beauty of marriage. MasyaAllah. How much details Allah SWT has put into the rules and guidelines for us to live our daily lives and not even a single loophole in Islam.
Allah SWT even forbids us from cross-dressing. A lady can’t dress like a guy and a guy can’t dress like a lady. Even if a guy wears the headscarf just for sake of fun, it is haram. SubhanAllah. How strict our Lord is when it comes to this.
Again my homosexual brothers and sisters, we’re not against you. We will never humiliate you. Those who humiliate you are not one of us. We are here to give constant reminders to you. It may be hurtful going through the process of purification. No doubt, it will be very very hard to contain those urges and desires. But just think of your parents, if not for them, you’ll not see the world. You need both mother’s and father’s love and attention. You know both of them play very different roles. Can you imagine yourself being brought up by same sex parents? And knowing that you’re either adopted or your birth isn’t normal? Not knowing who’s your real parents or who your dad is? If you can’t imagine, then please spare the emotional torture from your future child(ren). Plus, you know how important breastfeeding is to newborn. How can you have the heart depriving a newborn of the best nutrition?
Allah is great. He wants to protect us. Have we not read of the statistic that proportionally, more homosexuals are infected by HIV than heterosexuals? Can’t you see how much Allah SWT, the One who created you, loves you? He knows you more than you know yourself. He forbids homosexuality as He knows how much detrimental effects it will bring to you, to the community.
It’s not too late, my dear brothers and sister. You may have a very dark past. You may feel that your sin is too big for Allah SWT to forgive. But know that the only sin that Allah SWT won’t forgive is syirk (associating partners to Allah SWT). Allah SWT says in the Qur’an:
“Allah says: “O My servants who have transgressed against their souls, do not despair of Allah’s mercy, for Allah forgives all sins. It is He Who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (al-Quran 39:53)
Remember that whenever you wanna repent and there’s something inside you saying that you’re not deserving of Allah’s forgiveness, that’s not your voice. That’s syaitan who’s whispering into your ears. You’re better than syaitan and iblis. Know that while you’re struggling to stop loving the same gender, there’s also a straight person who’s struggling not to be in a haram relationship.
I know this post may not change you, but my only hope is that for you to keep seeking the truth. My only advise is that to not miss any prayers. I remembered at one point of time how far I was from Allah SWT, but I keep telling myself that I should never miss any prayers. How difficult it was to find the time or place to pray, I still struggled hard to stop making excuses for myself. At that moment, I didn’t know what actions will make Allah SWT happy, but I knew the things that Allah SWT hated. So I tried my best to refrain from doing things that brought pleasure to me, but hatred to Allah SWT.
If you always club, drink, smoke, have promiscuous sex, or any sinful acts, avoid it one by one. No one is asking you to change drastically. For drastic change will bear drastic impact. If you can handle the drastic impact, then Alhamdulillah for you. If not, then do it one at a time. What’s most important is that you have the intention to change, only for the One. Keep making do’a to the Lord of the universe. Know that if He can control the entire universe, controlling your heart is just a small matter. Just ask for it. He doesn’t need you to survive, you need Him to survive.
Life is just a challenge. Everyone has their own challenges. If you think your challenge is the biggest, know that there’s someone else in this world who’s struggling to live; no food, no place to sleep, no parents, don’t know if tomorrow a bullet gonna pierce through his/her head.
You can be the happiest person. You don’t need a human’s love to make you feel complete. All you need is Allah SWT’s and Rasulullah SAW’s love. To have your halal spouse to love you, is a bonus. You choose your own happiness.
“A happy person once said: “The beautiful day is the day on which we have control of our affairs and our affairs do not control us. It is the day on which we control our desires and we are not controlled by them like slaves.”” (extracted from the book ‘You Can Be The Happiest Women In The World’)
Last not but not least, be friends with those who love Allah SWT. Be in the environment that gives you the positive vibe. Know that if someone loves Allah SWT, it doesn’t only come from the heart. If someone truly and sincerely loves Him, from the heart it will automatically show through from one’s appearance and actions. Be with those who truly and sincerely love Him.
How contradictory and hurtful it may sound, but know that those who support your sinful acts are actually the one who don’t love you. Those who stop and acknowledge you are the ones who truly love you. Life is temporary and we don’t want you to live “happily” only for a short period of time. We want you to be happy forever, now and till the Hereafter. InsyaAllah.
May Allah SWT guide us always and never make us go astray.