Assalamualaikum Wr. Wb.
On 31st August 2014, I had the golden opportunity to meet the ladies who have stayed loyal (I think!) reading my posts on this humble blog. Although I expected 20 attendees, Alhamdulillah Allah SWT gathered 15 of us (including me) for this fruitful event instead. Out of 14 ladies who came, 60% of them actually came as individuals! SubhanAllah! Me being not confident of running the show alone, I asked two good friends of mine to be the show runners. Alhamdulillah for them, we had an enjoyable time knowing one another through the ice breaking games they conducted.
So the topic for the day was “Learn To Love Again”. We talked about so much stuff. From loving others to loving oneself and of cz, loving for the sake of Allah SWT. Alhamdulillah in that session, everyone shared part of their lives and almost all of them shared the moment when they start to learn to love again. Love who? The One above. Listening from their inspiring hijrah stories, I was so humbled cz each of them reminded me of Allah SWT. When I went home, I decided that I want to publish their stories which will be called “Hijrah Story” and the authors are none other than the one who experienced the journey itself. InsyaAllah every Saturday and Sunday, I will publish 2 stories respectively on each day. I came to this realisation to do this ‘mini project’ because I feel all these while I’ve been blogging mostly about my experience. Now insyAllah, I will have 14 other stories from different people of different background (insyaAllah if all of them send in their Hijrah story)!
Of cz it won’t just stop at publishing their stories. I hope to match Muslimat out there who will be reading “Hijrah Story” and can relate to their struggles with the author of the post. At the end of each story, I will insert my number so that those whom wish to connect with any of the lady, can Whatsapp me to get their numbers! I won’t publish their numbers due to privacy issue and some of them want to remain anonymous.
Aaaand…. not only that! We will also have Halaqah session every month insyaAllah! Each month one of the ladies will be elected as a leader. The leader will come up with a topic and be the one who guides the discussion. InsyaAllah the upcoming Halaqah session would be on “Self-Esteem” and insyaAllah it will be on 19th October. I won’t be there since I’m in Jordan but one of the ladies by the name of Hanisah would be leading this Halaqah session insyaAllah! InsyaAllah next week I’ll be publishing Sister Hanisah’s Hijrah story and MasyaAllah, it’s super amazing! So if you’re interested to attend this Halaqah session and you want to expand your circle of Muslimah friends, you can Whatsapp me at +6582981248, and I will add you into our Whatsapp group insyaAllah! 😀
LEARN TO LOVE AGAIN
It’s common for parents when it comes to Islam, they will stress on their children about the halal and haram in Islam. Yes, their children will grow up knowing that it’s haram to expose their aurah but the way they hijab (cover) their aurah, it’s as though they don’t understand at all the wisdom behind why Allah SWT commands them to so. So, how can someone fully comprehend the halal and haram in Islam and do it only for the sake of Allah SWT if in the first place, he/she doesn’t even know Allah SWT? How can we say we love Allah SWT and we do this and that for the sake of Allah SWT if we can’t even list down 5 out of 99 names of Allah SWT? We don’t know how loving He is or how much of a Humiliator He could be, and we still proudly say that we love Him.. SubhanaAllah. Let us take the initiative to learn about our Creator because there’s no knowledge that is more powerful and pure than the knowledge of our Creator. The best way to learn about Him is from the Qur’an.
Love For Others
“None of you will truly believe until he loves his brothers as he loves himself” [Sahih Bukhari]
If you were to see an accident by the road side and you’re a certified first aider, what will you do? Without much hesitation you will run towards the victim and try to help him or else he’d die. Now, you know your friend is a gay and you know being a gay is haram in Islam, what will you do? How do you show love towards your friend? Do you keep mum and let him be or do you advise him? Your reaction towards your friend can either escape him from the torment of hellfire or otherwise, it can continue leading him towards hellfire.
How much do you love your brothers and sisters? Is it eternal love or just love in this dunya? Do you wish to enter paradise alone or do you want to bring your brothers and sisters along? If you just wish to enter paradise alone, then according to the hadith, you have not truly believed.
“You will not enter Paradise until you have faith and you won’t gain faith until you share the love amongst each other. Do you want me to show you an action if all of you were to do it, you will certainly share love amongst each other? Spread salam amongst all of you.” [Sahih Bukhari]
We’re living in a busy society whereby we have no time or we just choose not to acknowledge the people around us. When we see a Muslim sister going to pass by us, do we look and smile at her and ready to give salam? Or do we act as though we didn’t see her and just continue looking at our phone? Why are we so ashamed to do what our beloved Rasulullah SAW told us to? Yes, it may be quite hard if you’re the soft-spoken and shy sort, but if we just instil a little bit of courage to uphold the Sunnah of Rasulullah SAW besides spreading love, MasyaAllah, InsyaAllah Allah SWT will reward you more and Rasulullah SAW will love you greater.
Love For Self
“Every son of Adam commits a lot of sins and the best amongst those who sin are the repenters.” [Recorded by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah]
Allah SWT knows His creations best. He knows we, sons and daughters of Adam, will commit a lot of sins and He gave us the solution to that; to repent. It’s only human to err and Allah SWT acknowledges that. He allows us to fall just so that we could stand up again stronger with Him in our heart now.
“Verily, Allâh forgives not that partners should be set up with him in worship, but He forgives except that (anything else) to whom He pleases, and whoever sets up partners with Allâh in worship, he has indeed invented a tremendous sin. ” [al-Qur’an 4:48]
Allah SWT has clearly stated that there is no sin that cannot be forgiven except for shirk (associating partners with Allah SWT). So why are we so worried that our sin won’t be forgiven? And not having faith in the forgiveness of Allah SWT just shows how weak our Imaan is. We need to stop hurting ourselves by constantly reminding ourselves what we have done in the past. We should repent and move on.
“…And who despairs of the mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?” [al-Qur’an 15:56]
Only those who are astray will doubt and despair of the mercy of his Lord. Let us not be amongst those who are astray.
“Seek the forgiveness of your Lord, and turn to Him in repentance…” [al-Qur’an 11:3]
There are of cz conditions for the acceptance of repentance. Allah SWT knows our heart. We can verbally say we have repented, but saying “I will repent after I have another stick of cigarette” is as though we’re making fun and belittling the gift (of repentance) that Allah SWT has bestowed upon us.
- Immediate cessation of the sin.
- Regret for what was done.
- Determination not to return to the sin.
- Seeking forgiveness (if the sin is done on someone else. eg. back biting)
Ultimately, we repent solely for Allah SWT and confession of sins is solely for Allah SWT too. Rasulullah SAW’s doa asking for forgiveness:
“Aboo’u laka bi ni’matika wa aboo’u bi dzanbi” [Sahih Bukhari]
I acknowledge Your blessings and I acknowledge (confess) my sin to You.
Let’s put this do’a into practise when asking for forgiveness from al-Ghafur (The Forgiver and Hider of Faults).
“O My slaves, you err night and day, but I will forgive all sins, so ask Me for forgiveness and I will forgive you.” [Sahih Muslim (Hadith Qudsi)]
Again and again, we see Ayah from al-Qur’an and ahadith (pl. for hadith) mentioning about forgiving and repenting. The best timing to ask forgiveness from Allah SWT is to perform Tahajjud, during the last third of the night where Allah SWT comes down to the lowest of heaven to listen to those who calls for Him.
“Allah is more compassionate towards His slaves than a mother towards her child.” [Sahih Muslim]
Learning to love again is to learn to love Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW again. We may love our mum, dad, spouse, brothers and sisters, and our own self, but it shouldn’t and should never surpass our love for Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW. In fact, we should love humans for the sake of Allah SWT. Know that if you love someone because you love Allah SWT, then the love will never die, insyaAllah. And to love Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW, we must learn about Them.